Passing of an old friend
So I went to the N-man's funeral. I haven't been to one in ages and never really went to a Hawaii buddhist style funeral before.
I must say, N-man had alot of family and friends, there were probably 600 people packed in the Gosoi Morturary. Really sad to see so much love in the room all wondering what happened and what they could have done to prevent this tragedy. It was a really weird thing to be at, it was surreal and confusing all at the same time. Can't explain it.
Anyways the gist of it was that it seems no one really knew the N-man. It was interesting because the two friends who gave eulogies were actually his wifes old friends and they admitted that N-man was a man of few words, thus my impression... quite sad, could it be that he didn't have a close personal bond to a buddy that he could share his inner thoughts with? I think that is really key for everyone to be able to share your misery with. Sharing misery.. thats what tibetan buddhism is all about.
So this mystery will end unresolved. No one seems to know what happened. The "why" bothers me as it does many people.. but we may never know. His brother didn't know. His cousin didn't know. I approched the eulogy girl to ask her, and she didn't know either. They all said no one has a clue. Geez.. it is really sad. All the family he left behind... parents, brother, wife, 3 kids, etc. Really sombering.
On a lighter note, I talked his cousin (Gen Badoyama) who is 1yr older, but someone I knew from HS and UH and from hanging at N-man's house over the years. Wow I had a major crush on her during HS and even College. She looked good at 35, but has been married 7 years, has a 2yo baby, etc. She's a sweetheart, I admit I thought way too much about her during this funeral. The eulogy girl was also pretty cute. Am I sick? Yeah I think I am maybe I need help.
Anyways I wish N-man and his family the best. He was a good guy no doubt about it.
I must say, N-man had alot of family and friends, there were probably 600 people packed in the Gosoi Morturary. Really sad to see so much love in the room all wondering what happened and what they could have done to prevent this tragedy. It was a really weird thing to be at, it was surreal and confusing all at the same time. Can't explain it.
Anyways the gist of it was that it seems no one really knew the N-man. It was interesting because the two friends who gave eulogies were actually his wifes old friends and they admitted that N-man was a man of few words, thus my impression... quite sad, could it be that he didn't have a close personal bond to a buddy that he could share his inner thoughts with? I think that is really key for everyone to be able to share your misery with. Sharing misery.. thats what tibetan buddhism is all about.
So this mystery will end unresolved. No one seems to know what happened. The "why" bothers me as it does many people.. but we may never know. His brother didn't know. His cousin didn't know. I approched the eulogy girl to ask her, and she didn't know either. They all said no one has a clue. Geez.. it is really sad. All the family he left behind... parents, brother, wife, 3 kids, etc. Really sombering.
On a lighter note, I talked his cousin (Gen Badoyama) who is 1yr older, but someone I knew from HS and UH and from hanging at N-man's house over the years. Wow I had a major crush on her during HS and even College. She looked good at 35, but has been married 7 years, has a 2yo baby, etc. She's a sweetheart, I admit I thought way too much about her during this funeral. The eulogy girl was also pretty cute. Am I sick? Yeah I think I am maybe I need help.
Anyways I wish N-man and his family the best. He was a good guy no doubt about it.
posted by The Big Time at 1:55 AM
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