Vegas Memoirs

I had some of this really great Scotch when I was in vegas. I paid $46 for one glass of this stuff so it better be good. It was 21year Macallan and apparently its $269 / bottle. Hmm no wonder it was good. I'm somewhat surprised though because I have 18 year Johnny Walker which is like $160/bottle and it is not that great. I think I like Guinness more nowadays.

Oh well I'm glad I don't drink that much otherwise I would go broke.

I keep saying I'm done w/ dating.. but alas..

I had a date tonight w/ this girl I met at Loft 11. Girl was young and naive, I'm not sure if I am into that. She's cute though, but a girl that lives at home still and works kind of a dead-end job.. and doesn't drink at all.. and also goes home from work at 5pm! Hard to coordinate with that type of gal. Oh well I'll give it another date.

Last night I had a date w/ an online gal. She was not quite my cup of tea. I feel bad for maybe seeming more interested than I am because now she e-mailed me and seems really interested....uhgggg, now what? It isn't a game. But on the flip side, she was one of those girls who had alot of bad dates and seems like she'd almost given up and rarely goes on dates. You definitely can't be like that, you gotta get out there and give it a fair shake and date date date!!! Me, I'm done dating. I am slowing down and trying to do my own thing now.

Sat night w/ the gang

My saturday was pretty dull at first. I was thinking of going to Napa w/ PG to the private winery, but didn't wake up early enough, and found that the winery was a private house, not a big winery, so I figured nah.. long drive, can't drive back drunk, and need to rest.

I had a good nap and then got my ass up to go out w/ VJ and her gang (Shidofu, SuperJen, Kathroom). Went to Madjewl for drinks and snacks. That girl Kathroom was really cute, I dig the nice smile and dimples. I met her before and didn't think much, but I realize that while you have a gf you don't notice things as much. Also when the girl is now married or off the market they also look better. Its a standard 'grass is greener' type of mentality.

After initial drinks, we were off to Suede! Let me tell ya, there is a side of the nightlife that I'm missing out on. Seems Jen and VJ know people at Suede. There was a line of like 30 people there, but VJ and Jen just walk up and talk to the dude who works there, and BAMN, we are in there for free. Its like traveling VIP style. Quite cool. Funny thing is.. there was no-one inside the club. Literally no-one. They hold the stupid line outside to create a buzz, but inside there were 0 people. We were the very first in there....

Anyways it was still cool to skip the line. Goes to show there is another level of action out there. I talked to only 1 girl that night. A pair of thai gals who had a boyfriend. Oh well. There were a few others I should have hit on, but wasn't feeling it that night. McG bailed on me too, I guess he wasn't up for it either. I think Holidays bring people down. I was a bit down before going out, but I'm glad I went out. Sometimes you have to drag your sorry ass out, 'cause moping at home is sometimes not that good.

Back in the day

I used to not spend much money. I probably saved $3000+ a month or something as a result. Now I save almost 0. Its really sad, but with my very expensive lifestyle of my apartment, going out, shopping, travel, etc.. its not easy to keep up even when in the 98% of world economic earning power (whatever it is anyways).

On the flip side, I used to not fully live life, whatever the heck that means. I didn't really enjoy the city, didn't go out to see what the city has to offer in terms of restaurants, clubs, etc.

Tonight I went to Rouge, and I realize that club sucks. McG and I both struck out and we have come to the conclusion it is not a pickup joint. Girls are not there to meet people randomly, it is waaaaaaay too clickish. We also went to Boss. Boss on a non-asian night is just another lame club. We also went to the Marina where McG and I checked out the Matrix, then demolished some dudes in foosball at Mauna Loa. No action but it was cool. On the way home while I was finding a cab, some girl flashed her boobs for me. Wow, thats like the 2nd set of boobs I've been flashed in 3 weeks.

Oh in Vegas I was on a craps table where I entered with $300 and left with $2500. It was quite a roll. My trip net wasn't quite that high, but I kept most of it (but spent alot on food for the family.. $45/person grand buffet at the Wynn for 4!! Thats like $200 right there!!)

The Art of the Pickup

I must say, my old friend Boo has opened my eyes to the singles scene. For that, I owe him big. Between him, Tombo, Booby, MCG, and all the others.. I'm recovered quite well so far.

I've come to realize that the mental state is key to picking up girls. You have to put yourself in the mindset that most girls are not getting asked out that often, so if you can do it, then you will probably score (figuratively) because of simple probabilities.

Take his roomie for example, whom I will refer to as "the rack". The rack said last week that she has gone on 1 date this whole year. The rack isn't bad looking. She's not hot, but is okay, and has a nice rack (hence the moniker). So is it that she is really picky? No no no.. I suspect she hasn't been asked out much, so when some fool finally does, of course she is thinking.. what the heck, I haven't been on a date in 9 months, I might as well go for it.

Thats part 1 of the secret. The other thing I realize is to not try to be friends first, just ask them out and make your intentions clear. Like this really cute girl at work in HR, my typical modus-operandi (sp?) would be to be friends, hang out, and see if something happens slowly and sneakily (hey its worked for me in the past afterall).. but why not just ask them out on a date and be clear of your intention? (Its because we are wimps thats why!!).

Life is short, no time to waste goofing around.

Lots of other things in your favor.. like the fact that girls like guts so the act of asking them out automatically gives you points.

I visited the Hapa gals place tonight kind of late. Being invited to a girls house after 9pm is a green light. Unfortunately, she's a nice gal. I like her, but not sure where this will go, but its nice to have options!

Hapa

As I was saying, I'm kind of enjoying the single scene more nowadays. I think its a sign that my mental state is improved. I'm learning how to meet women which is part of the key to it.

I'm trying to figure out who to take to my xmas party, or if I should just go solo. Taking a date is a good way to impress a date, and going solo is good if you want to mingle and hit on any girls. Of course this is a work party, so I don't want to hit on too many girls at work at get a weird reputation.

I had a date w/ the Hapa girl today. She's a nice gal. Had a simple date, ate some noodles and watched a movie. Action is going good with this gal. I think I like her, but I don't think I'm really really into her.

I called this girl I met at the club and left her voicemail. I think its her real #, but we'll see if she calls me back!!

Late night happenings

Went to Bajool late like 11pm or so. It was really packed. Line outside as well which I've never seen before. Inside was a huge asian bash with a few dudes having birthday parties. I ran into a dude from my company named Kook. Nice guy, didn't know he was a clubber. He saw me hitting on a few girls unsuccessfully. I think most guys however are impressed that a guy makes a move at all, because its not easy to do I tell ya!

I made a slight calculated error.. these two girls were cute, but one was much cuter than the other. I of course go for the cuter one. But I actually started talking to the less cuter one first and she was quite nice actually. Then later I finally got to talking to the cute one and asked for her #, but was.. alas rejected. I gave her my card instead. According to experts, they rarely call you when you give them your #. Oh well.

So the jacked up part of this story is that while I was talking to the 1st girl, the korean gal who invited me to this party/mixer interrupts me to introduce me to a GUY!! Hello??? I'm talking to a girl.. why would someone interrupt me right at that moment?!? Is she the female cock-blocker ?? Jeez that is really bizzare! Maybe she was jealous? I don't think she is into me at all though which is why I think its an odd thing to do.

Oh well it was fun. I actually struck out but I am finding it kind of fun to get into the groove of talking to random girls at the clubs. Later Boo, Gobby and I went to eat chinese and hung out till 4am. We discussed plans for the future like going to San Diego in the spring to golf and hang out. That will be fun.

Clubbing the action

I got my MS diploma today.

It was nice. A satisfactory self achievement. Years ago it was a dream. Now its in the past.

I went to a club w/ that Boston girl I dated a while ago and MCG. I hit on a skanky looking malasian gal who later I learned was married w/ 2 kids! wtf?? then I hit on this super short gal who is an OBGYM and said she has a long term boyfriend! wtf #2 ???

On the way out, after going 0/2, I told this gal I was eyeing out that she is a great dancer and got her #! Wow, I went 1/3 that was good. We'll see if its a real # though, who knows, maybe I won't call! Hahaha. I never get #'s, so this is new for me. I realize its way easier than doing online dating because the odds are higher. A typical gal online gets like 100+ e-mails in a week. Same girl gets like 5 requests for a phone # in a night. You do the math.

Anyways while I am still sad about losing a girl I thought was the girl for me, I guess single life has its moments as well. I'm not entirely feeling good nor bad, but I realize life moves on. My other friend TraciK apparently just broke up w/ her long term bf and that sounds like a big nightmare of an event.. they had bought a house together too. That sucks. I really feel for anyones emotional pain because I know first hand now how hard it can be.

What a night

Its 3am.

wow what a night.

work till 8pm. Went to eat a sub at subway solo. Went to 111 minna met up with MCG and his friend for an hour, then my friend Melissa (tennis partner) came, then Boo and Booby, and Boo's roommie came by. It was fun.

Then this girl I have been trying to date called to say she would be at the Starlight room (harry denton's) so we went there. This is the same girl who has the super hot girlfriend and she was there again. It really pains me to see this super hot girlfriend. I hate it, but alas... she was there in her full boobaciousness. She didn't look quite as hot this time, but she definitely was sitll hot. I danced with her and the girl I should try to date, and it was all fun.

Boo came by with 2 bottles of campaign and was a ham. But all in all it was a blast. Its 3am now. Holy shit, I gotta get up for work in like 5 hours..... is this living life or what????

Oh yeah, afterwards Bobby and I had Pho to finish off the great night. Wow what a night.

Tired

Had a date tonight w/ this 1/2 japanese girl. Went pretty well. I think I have the moves down. Wine, dinner, after dinner drinks, walk in the park then back to my condo. Hehe. But.. as I said, I think I'm done dating for now. I'm ready to transcend to the next level of just enjoying life as a single guy.

I think I'm done

I think I'm done with the online sites. I tried it for a few months, met some gals, but in the end, I think I am going to just chill and its holidays anyways so its too busy to be dating.

I'm going to wind down the last few dates I have and then just hit the clubs with some friends on occasion to spock out the action.

Tahoe action

Wow what a weekend. Lots of fun.

Went to tahoe with Boo, Booby and his gf Smo.

The reason was.. just to gamble and goof off. No real reason. But it was fun. We gambled till like 430am on Friday, and was out till 5am on Saturday. Friday was hard core gambling. Boo won big at every single table playing the weirdest BJ style imagineable. Hitting when he shouldn't and splitting everything, and standing soft at weird times. Goes to show, its random man.

Then Saturday we play a poker tourney and Boo wins 2nd place! We are talking 2nd place out of like 70 people who entered. That guy doesn't even know how to play!!! wtf.. crazy man.

I bet on the USC game on a spread+under parlay and won! Hahaa!!! ohterwise I played crazy parlays and lost them all. I bet one that was 50,000:1. $3 bet wins $149,997.

Sat night after the USC game.. we went to the clubs. Clubs were really dead. Funny thing happened, they give out beads at Harrahs. This girl in the elevator (lady I should say she was probably 35) was drunk and was talking about how she didn't have to flash her boobs to get all the beads so I offered to give her my beads if she flashed. Sure enough, in the elevator she showed me her boobs and I gave her my beads. She was drunk and horny now. Someone is getting lucky w/ that skank! Free boobies! Thats great eh??

Later we went to the main bar at MontBleu and Boo orders a drink for this girl across the bar. I'm thinking to myself.. that shit never works. And plus he doesn't follow up by going to talk to her. Instead he waits and hangs w/ me and this other dude, and she eventually comes by to say hi. She is _really_ hot too. Apparnetly she is a cocktail waitress in the club. 1/2 filipino, 1/4 irish and german or something and pretty damn hot. I tell ya Boo got some moves. It amazes me.

I also made $900 on a craps table. I was so close to making $1k, at which time I could have left w/ a yellow $1k chip but alas.. it wasn't meant to be.

Lotta fun though. Really tired today.

Living the life

Tonight was a fun night.

Lets see... started at 630pm, went to Ozumo and downed a beer w/ some coworkers. Then jetted to Americano and met w/ MCG for a beer and scoped out the chicks. Then went to the Ferry building and had a glass of wine w/ a girl I just met from mooch.com at the Slanted door. She seemed a bit timid, but somewhat cute I think. Filipino girl, really into hawaii. Kinda weird really. The funniest thing I found was that in the end, when we departed I gave her a hug and then went for my kiss on the cheek but she totally intercepted with a kiss on the lips. Hmm.. very interesting!

After that, went back to Ozumo, met w/ some other coworkers, and MCG came by. Had a couple of chats then went to Marina to meet up with the doctor and her friends. Turns out one of her friends is someone who MCG knows! Small world. Had a beer or two, then went to eat Korean food w/ the doc. As would expect, I got very little play from her other than minor kissing. Conversation was much better. THis girl is really weird!!!!

The 1/2 japanese girl e-mailed me back. I was a bit disturbed since I called her last night and didn't hear back, so its good that she got back to me. So we'll go out Tues night again.

Thats it for now! OFf to Tahoe tomorrow!! Living the life!!!

Half Jap

Tonight I went out with this girl.. and I swear, she looks like she's fully 100% white. I was shocked to learn that she is actually 1/2 japanese. You'd never imagine this is possible. Oh well thats life.

Actually quite a nice girl, had a great time. Such a contrast from the doctor.. who is sometimes so weird, that its like pulling teeth to talk to. Obvoiusly I should forget the doc, and move on to better pastures. I feel so invested already though.. after only a few dates.. argggg...

thats life man.

For VJ, who finds my 10pt ratings very amusing, this girl was about a 7.

Ugg.. so frustrating

Dating can be frustrating.

I went out w/ the doctor again, and i have to tell ya.. she is one weird gal. I think she lacks certain social skills in communication at times. I think its part of being a doctor and being tied up in school studying science too long. But she is a nice gal, just not as much personality and also _really_ slow to get around the bases!! god.. what the heck. I have to wonder if she wasn't a doctor would I bother? She has a nice body and soft lips.. but hmm... good question.

Anyways I gotta get sleep. Dating world is tough man!!

Today I feel contentment

I feel that I should have gone out with some folks on Sat night to Elements Lounge. Oh well like I said, I wasn't feel up for being ultra social. It takes energy to be a cool guy.

Today I woke up, tried to get the doctor to go watch NFL with me over breakfast, but she was sleeping. Instead I cleaned house a bit, went to play tennis w/ this guy who runs the ladder. He's older, so I kicked his ass. Then jetted to Fremont to play Tombo who I lost to again (jesus christ, this is killing me, but also motivating me) 6-2, 6-4. Then off to Godd and Genn's wedding reception. Apparnetly we under estimated the event and my gift I feel was not enough. Kind of bad, I hate to be insulting like that. Maybe I will send them another gift as well.

Anyways I feel truly content today for the first time in a while. I have dates lined up, life is going forward okay. I still feel for my ex, but I also realize that things weren't perfect in either direction, and its a good life to get another chance to live and enjoy what you got. If things ever get patched up between us, it will be much better, and if they don't then things will be better in another way.

So.. tonight I feel some contentment.

I am going out with the doc tomorrow, and then another girl on Tues. In the past I was dating alot, but felt a bit like it was forced. Nowadays I don't give a s**t so I just go on dates for the heck of it. No pressure, just have fun. THats the key baby.

Social report

Saturday I didn't do that much. I had alot planned, but bailed on alot since I didn't feel social for some reason.

Its okay, its a good sign to not want to go out all the time. It means I'm happy just chilling for a change!

I was thinking about the doctor I'm dating. Hmm.. she's pretty stable. Very different than my last ex in the sense that the doc is really mild mannered. While ex#3 was a super happy and bright person (emotional i guess), the doc seems less passionate overall.

While this is premature to think about, when you do think about the type of person you want to be with what will make you happy long term? Someone who is usually smiling and happy and doing happy things (and with the emotional types, occasonally sad and crazy things), or someone who is stable, easy going, and has her stuff together?

Oh well we'll see how that goes.

Music and memories

I think there is probably some science to why music is so popular. It somehow triggers emotions and memories like nothing else.

For me, there are definitely songs (and movies/tv shows too I guess) that really bring back memories. Not to sound too sappy but yes.. mostly memories of past girlfriends. Not just my recent ex.

Here are some of the songs of note.

Pearl Jam - Black. Reminds me of ex#1
Dido - Thank You - reminds me of ex#2
Pearl Jam - alot of other songs - reminds me of ex#3
No Doubt - don't speak -- ex#3
Sia - Breathe me (end song of Six Feet Under) - reminds me of ex#3 (the whole show does really)

Actually any love song or love movie reminds me of my recent ex. Thats how sucky it is to be me. But alas as MCG taught me.. its about creating new memories.

Like I said, I need to avoid being so sappy.

I'm going on another date w/ the dr. tomorrow night. I don't know about this girl, but this is it for her! She is cute, but last time I got no vibe from her. Its too bad, some of my other dates were like smooth sailing.. what a waste, I didn't like those girls in the end!!

Hopefully I can meet up with the korean party girl on Sunday. We'll see, that girl is way too busy!

Dressing

One thing I do like is dressing for the financial district.

Its so much easier to just have shirts pressed and pants dry cleaned. Like wearing a uniform everyday. Just pick out pants and a shirt, etc. Match the shoes, belt, and otherwise not much to think about and by most regards you are looking sharp.

Before I'd wear khaki's or jeans and a polo shirt, but you know.. there is alot more to that type of dress if you are going to try to look sharp. It takes alot more know-how to dress well in more casual clothes I think.

Anyways thats what I've come to realize. I need to get a sweater I can wear over my dress shirts since its starting to get cold. I don't really have a good overcoat. Kind of don't need one really.. I forget if it gets really cold or not in SF. The cheap GAP coat I have will have to do for now. It was like $69 last year on sale so what the heck.

This post was really lame.

PARTY ON

A few people have told me my new hair style looks good. Or did they just comment that I have a new hair style?

Anyways I go to a new barber near work. Good guy. He charges $20 though which is kind of a rip off. Add $6 for a concurrent shoe shine.

In the end, living in the city has theese differences:

- Pay for dry cleaning, pressed shirts, wash-n-fold
- More expensive haircuts
- Must always look sharp for work and the prowl for women
- Money goes quick!!

Anyways I have nothing to say. I went to a halloween party with VJ. It was fun. Not much else to report. VJ is looking good. Had too much to drink for a weeknight.